Disney had it all wrong- 61 days to go

30 08 2010

The time has come again my friends to talk of many things, of why the city is boiling hot and whether pigs have wings. In Cincinnati they do. At least once a year. Cincinnati seems to have lot’s to offer. Delicious food, great live music, culture and experiences.

It’s falling a wee bit short in the Prince Charmings category. At least thus far.

Let’s talk about the good news first though shall we? One of the original three of us has been on a date. (Clearly the winner of whatever invisible prize we never determined) She had a lovely time, in fact hasn’t really stopped smiling all that much since and has a second date planned. So this gives the rest of us hope right?

Also in good news we have several new lovely ladies joining our crusade. It’s exciting that we may be inspiring others to throw themselves into the proverbial dating pool. Let’s hope they don’t become an angry mob if suddenly adult swim gets invaded by sharks.

So chickens, here is the skinny on the internet dating scene so far:

1. eHarmony- While Dr. Neil produced somewhat decent matches the first week I actually haven’t received any new matches in over 3 days. There have been several men that seem pretty normal but of the 50+ matches only 2 have actually communicated at all and only one shows actual promise. Thankfully I was a savvy shopper and found a discount for my 3 month subscription. Not looking likely to be renewed at this point Dr.Neil.

2. Christianmingle.com-  Here we have had more communication. About 6 communication attempts from over 100 “matches”. Two of which have been decent and one is still ongoing. The profiles here are definitely better for those seeking someone who might actually go to church with you.

3. Singles of Faith- My favorite so far. The profiles are in-depth and they are screened to try to ensure the profiles they post are of people who are God centered, emotionally available and mature, and relationship minded. I also like the dating advice articles on the site. I have had two meaningful strings of communication from matches that may not go anywhere but at least they were engaging and seemingly love the Lord as much as I do. It’s also the most economical of the three. If you want my vote so far, this site gets it.

Where do we go from here ? Well, we keep on until Halloween.  I’m still really excited about this whole process. I’m learning more and more about the kind of man I want, don’t  want and re-evaluating myself in the process. I’m making my list and checking it twice. The romantical (yes it’s a word now) part of me still hopes that I just meet some guy at a taco truck, gelato stand or even (hold your breath) church. In any event I’m having fun pouring over silly profiles and sharing my story with you all.

Stay tuned friends. This is going to get good.





73 days. 3 girls. 3 dates. 1 internet. GO!

18 08 2010

From the time we are very young,  girls do silly things when they get together late at night. At eight, it’s usually a slumber party where we are daring eachother to kiss a boy at school, or at sixteen we cry over a boy who didn’t ask us to prom. Apparently in our mid to late twenties it’s this. Three girls, driving home around midnight from karaoke, we decide that all of us are going on at least one date by Halloween.

I know what you’re thinking. Halloween? That’s light years away. It might help if I clarify by saying that for 2 out of the three of us it’s been many months since the last date.  Moving on.

What kind of guys? We are all pretty picky. By that I mean we are all looking for mature guys, that love Jesus and are not complete emotional retards. Good taste in music and a sharp sense of humor are requested. Height, shape, hair and eye color preference vary for each of us. So where to find these guys?

Church? Not so much. Our church is awesome, and full of really great guys. One tiny problem, most of them are married or almost there.

Networking ? This is an option. We all furiously poured over our facebook friends and cell phone lists.  A couple possibilities came from this option. Matchmaking introductions were sent and I will report later on those outcomes.

Last and possibly least, The Internets. With a plethora of internet dating sites to choose from, a girl could drown in profiles and personality surveys and frankly a lot of really unsuited and kinda creepy matches. So for the sake of this journey I have chosen 3 sites to try and report back on. They are in no paticular order :

1. Christian Mingle- http://www.christianmingle.com

2. Singles of Faith – http://www.singlesoffaith.com

3. Eharmony – http://www.eharmony.com (discount codes are available online if the high roller prices scare you away)

In this internet journey it will be interesting in that I’m not just screening profiles for myself , but for 2 of my good friends too. So if you are a single guy out there don’t be suprised if you get a message from me saying “Hey, you aren’t my type but…”

And before all you naysayers start in on why the internet is evil and a horrible way to meet someone, ask around. I guarantee you will know someone who met thier spouse, or their sister did or best friend did, on the internet.  I personally know several couples that met that way and have been happily married for years, some with kids.  Or ask Dr.Neil Clark Warren of eHarmony. That is if you can reach him on his private island he is sure to have from the millions of dollars they must be making. I digress.

I’m actually looking forward to this experiment. Mostly because I want to set my friends up with awesome guys who actually deserve them.

Wish me luck, keep us in your prayers and leave any comments or advice you might have.

1-2-3 Ready Go!





The glass is full now

16 08 2010

**Special note: I started this draft awhile ago and never posted it.  But the content is decent and so I’m going to post it now. What’s next? Stay tuned for an important upcoming blog about dating, the internet and a countdown. ***

Back to the blog……

I don’t really know if I’m usually a half-full or a half-empty kinda girl.  Mostly I forget about the glass completely. Especially when I’m talking about God glass. The one we were supposed to fill with prayer and the Holy Spirit and God moments.  Needless to say , due to neglect my glass was almost empty and looked kinda dirty.

What is a girl to do? Go to the mountains with Jesus of course! And some awesome friends.

In my earlier blog I mentioned wanting to do something special. This was it.  It was a great battery filling weekend. We laughed, hiked, played in a river , prayed, watched old movies  played silly games and made yummy food. We tried to drown out the world and turn up God.

Now I feel better about some things, have more questions about others, and have the strength needed to shut some doors and open new ones. All because of God. When the next wave of reality crashes I hope that I can remember that quiet closeness I felt in the mountains and pull God in tight.

How’s your glass?





110 in the Shade

7 07 2010

Dear Readers,

I’m not sure where you are reading this. Under a cabana with a coconut frost in your hand or in a temperate shade of the Northwest, but here in Kentucky it is blazing saddles HOT.  That’s not stopping this single girl from having a great time this summer though. Check out my done list items from the previous post , thus far:

1. Queen City Underground Tour: Breweries, Bosses and Burials Walking Tour. ($15)It’s an amazing look at parts of Cincinnati, including awesome secret underground tunnels. Bring a water bottle and a camera and have at it! ( Did this today and it was awesomesauce)

Marjie Explores Underground Cincinnnati

2. PNC Summer Music Series at Fountain Square (FREE!!) Thursdays is Salsa with live music and dancing, Fridays is Midpoint’s Indie Summer including some great local bands. ( July 2nd look for me , the No No Knots AND the Pomegranates in one night!!)


6. Photo Excursions – So far I’ve hit Big Bone Lick State Park and Boone Cliffs State Nature Preserve. I’m hoping to make a day trips all around the tri-state to take fun pictures. Have an idea of where I should go? Leave me a comment! I’d love to hear of your favorite beautiful spots.

Tinker Toys at SummerFair 2010

where the buffalo roam - Big Bone Lick State Park

Bridge at Waterfront Park, Louisville 4th of July

9.  Host an I’m Not Married Dinner Party- Ok so not everything is about food. But for me (an ex-chef) having people over to cook for is awesome. Couples get together all the time with other couples. I figure this could be a fun way to have singles get together without having to go to a loud bar or restaurant. Plus I just love to cook, especially if there is a theme!

PENDING: Harry Potter Theme Dinner Party in the works!!

10.  Secret Suprise- Not sure what this is yet but I figured I need to leave room for something amazing to happen.

PENDING: Quiet Weekend with God planned at the end of the month in Tennessee

Not too shabby for it only being July. To top it off , add on I’m applying to go overseas as a lay missionary to learn midwifery next year in the Phillipines, joining my church officially this Sunday and I’ve begun Krav Maga training to be a fierce ginger warrior. I think this summer is turning out to be alright after all.

I can’t wait to see what more fun July has to offer!!

Get out there, remember your sunscreen and have some fun!

Much Love,

Glenna





Single in the Summertime City

31 05 2010

So this entry will be less serious and more about fellowship. Let’s face it , at church sometimes it’s all about being a good spouse or a good parent. Right now at my church they have an awesome event coming up for married couples. It looks great. But what about the rest of us? Now I know this may sound like the whining of the bitterly lonely. I assure you it’s not. I have a game plan.

Right here and now I’m putting a stamp on this summer to be awesome for singles. As you can see I’ve changed my blog header for it to be a barefoot and carefree summer. So kick off your shoes and get ready. Here is my top 10 list of fun stuff going on that I can and will be doing alone or with a great gaggle of friends.

1. Queen City Underground Tour: Breweries, Bosses and Burials Walking Tour. ($15)It’s an amazing look at parts of Cincinnati, including awesome secret underground tunnels. Bring a water bottle and a camera and have at it! ( Did this today and it was awesomesauce)

2. PNC Summer Music Series at Fountain Square (FREE!!) Thursdays is Salsa with live music and dancing, Fridays is Midpoint’s Indie Summer including some great local bands. ( July 2nd look for me , the No No Knots AND the Pomegranates in one night!!)

3.  Saturday Movie Nights at Fountain Square (FREE again!). Every saturday this summer! Previews start at 7pm and they show 2 movies back to back. It’s a drive in without the cars . Bring friends, food and a seat and have a great free time.

4. Wednesday Nights– Nujacket Community Group 7pm @ The Vineyard in Florence. Fellowship and talking about God. Welcoming anyone in their 20’s and 30’s. Single, Couples, Married and childcare is provided. Honestly a great group of people you can count on to care about you.

5. White Water Trip- I’m hoping to get together a group of people who want a little white water adventure this summer. ( Let me know if you’re interested)

6. Photo Excursions – So far I’ve hit Big Bone Lick State Park and Boone Cliffs State Nature Preserve. I’m hoping to make a day trips all around the tri-state to take fun pictures. Have an idea of where I should go? Leave me a comment! I’d love to hear of your favorite beautiful spots.

7. Findlay MarketWaffles, Pizza , Gelato, Camel Sausage, Local honey and more!! I’m sure this will be a frequent summer haunt. A girl can’t live without Dojo Gelato for too long. And the waffles are worth every hour you’ll spend at the gym earning them. There is so much to buy and see at Findlay, it never lets you down.

8.  Food Excursions : Picking a place you’ve never eaten and just taking a risk. This is much more fun with a small group of friends. I especially like new world cuisines and small local eateries. You never know when you will find something new to be a party in your mouth.

9.  Host an I’m Not Married Dinner PartyOk so not everything is about food. But for me (an ex-chef) having people over to cook for is awesome. Couples get together all the time with other couples. I figure this could be a fun way to have singles get together without having to go to a loud bar or restaurant. Plus I just love to cook, especially if there is a theme!

10.  Secret SupriseNot sure what this is yet but I figured I need to leave room for something amazing to happen.

Aside from all the things listed above I’ve got fitness, hula hooping and putting serious thoughts into starting an Intro to Bellydance class in my community. I’m going to be a busy little bee.

I hope this little segment of rambling has maybe sparked your interest to get out and take back the summer. Sometimes it’s hard as a Christian Single to find things to do that don’t promote a lifestyle most of us don’t want to fall into. But there is fun to be had. So let’s do this!





Jealous For Me

19 05 2010

One night at community group my friend Sara was leading worship and she said something about how lucky we are to have a God that is jealous for us.

Jealousy can be such an ugly thing in relationships. But the word jealousy doesn’t have to mean what we think it means. Jealousy comes from the Greek word ζήλος (zēlos),  and has meaning in a positive sense too. It means “emulation, ardour, zeal” or even “full of zeal”.  Zeal means “a feeling of strong eagerness” or “Passionate ardor in the pursuit of anything”.

Wow. Ok grammar lesson done. Back to the meat.

At this moment in my life I am so very humbled and grateful to know that anyone, let alone my savior , my Father, my All in All feels eagerness for me.  God has zeal for me, he longs for me to be close and is in passionate pursuit of my relationship with him. I don’t think any boyfriend has every truly felt that way about me. But God does.

He is eager to draw me away from pain, heartache and the loneliness I may feel as a single girl. Sometimes those feelings are so overwhelming it consumes me. But only when I forget the truths God has placed in my heart.

Am I worthy of such ardor? Are any of us? Probably not. But thankfully He thinks we are.

Someone sent me this prayer as part of an email and I thought it was really awesomesauce. Simple and perfect for those days we might feel more single than others.

Father God, sometimes my sense of loneliness is a dull ache, other days it threatens to engulf me and I feel like I can hardly breathe.  Today Lord, I choose to climb in Your lap and lean against Your heart and find comfort in You.Thank you for being jealous for me Lord. I praise you in Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Motivational Song [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWgeUrD4MHI]





Put me in Coach

16 05 2010

My blog used to be about the clever and funny things my boyfriend Brian said. It can’t really be about that anymore because I don’t have a boyfriend named Brian. Turns out, he didn’t want to marry me either.

So a new direction is needed. While eating my heartaches worth of Graeters Black Raspberry Chip in a waffle cone with sprinkles today, the topic came up that there is a serious lack of singles ministry available in our church community.

So I came home and really thought and prayed about it. I took a bubble bath and thought about it. So I sat down and opened my study bible and began looking for references and guidance. And then I prayed some more. And cried. Well that’s putting it pretty lightly. I had a soul cleansing/wrenching sort of cry.

Here’s what I got smacked with though. I am not the only single lonely person at my church. And my church’s motto is everyone gets to play. Well guess what? I’m ready.

I got up from my knees and immediately this plan started to unfold.

It’s going to start here with verses and inspirations and book suggestions. Along with probable thoughts on the whole idea of being a Christian single in this secular polluted environment.

Todays verse (worth saying outloud trust me. seriously don’t be scared, say it outloud.) taken from the NIV version

Psalm 138 7-8

“Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me. The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your love, O Lord endures forever- do not abandon the works of your hands.”